Punjabi’s are associated for their sprightly behavior and zestful way of living life. They have their unique style of celebrations. The festivals and marriages can be the ideal occasion to evidence their high spirited, customs and traditions practiced and how intensely they are connected to it. This article talks about Punjabi marriages, customs practiced by them and their uniqueness, especially in North India.
Punjabi’s are famous all around the nation and even in foreign lands for their unique code of conduct, pleasing behavior and warmheartedness. In fact wherever one goes, Punjabi is found strongly connected to their customs and beliefs. Intensely acclimatized to their rituals and traditions, Punjabi’s have a unique way of celebrating occasions, especially “Marriages”.
Punjabi matrimony is full of customs and traditions and the celebrations made are strong reflection of Punjabi culture. The wedlock in the community depicts a journey of duos in new phase of life and togetherness forever. Various customs and traditions are practiced, below are few important mores practiced by them.
Punjabi Matrimony and Important Rituals
Undoubtedly Punjabi marriages are associated with loud music, colloquial songs, dhol beats and bhangra dance, but above all the customs and traditions are predominant part of the marriages. The commonalities remains high through in dance, music, food, dress but few rituals practiced are celebrated in different manner than others. The rituals and ceremonies are not new but instead are rooted in the culture since ages and have evolved from traditional times.
Roka: – This is the first ceremony which takes place, after the couple agrees to marry and show consent to be together forever with each other as the wedded partner. The ceremony is also called saith and the announcement of the ceremony means that girl and the boy are willing to be each others soul mates. Sweets, dry fruits, and coconut are given to would be bride by the groom’s family. The girl’s maternal uncle gives her a nose ring which is to be worn by her on the wedding day. After the closure of the ceremony both families exchange hugs and congratulate each other for the auspicious start of the marriage preparation.
This custom originated since the early days where the parents of the bride and groom used to search future partners for their son and daughter, and after once they find perfect match, roka was to be done to announce to the society and relatives that the search has come to an end.
Sagai: –This is important ritual practiced and is also called “tikka” ceremony. It is held a week or ten days before marriages. In this the girl’s family visit to the boy’s house, carrying sweets, wrapped gifts, material used for Tikka as in silver plate, rice, saffron, 14 dried dates, silver foil and coconut wrapped in gold leaf. Father-in-law of the groom applies the tikka on the groom’s forehead, blesses him and gives him some money. In return the groom’s family gives 7 baskets of dry fruits to the girls’ family.
Now a day’s the tikka ceremony is combined with engagement ceremony, where the couple sits together. The girl is draped with red chunni, in some families it is heirloom which is passed from generations to generations. Also groom’s mother giver her sets of jewelry and help her wearing it. A tiny dot of mehndi is applied on her palm and then the ceremony is sealed with exchange of rings between the girl and the boy.
Sangeet: – After sagaai, Sangeet ceremony is the arranged at the girl’s place and few close relatives are invited. Family and relatives play dholki and sing cultural songs; teasing boy and his family. In the jest of course they dance and enjoy the moment.
Mehndi: –The last function before the wedlock is Mehdi ceremony when mehndiwalas are called to respective boy’s and girl’s house and both are applied with Mehdi. The ceremony is also accompanied by music and songs are sung by family females embarking the auspicious ambiance till the marriage.
The final Day of Wedding: – Three days before the final day of wedding maaiyan starts where the bride is not supposed to leave her home till the wedding. On the morning of the wedding date, turmeric paste is applied to the bride and groom face, in their respective houses. The turmeric paste is applied to bring glow to the face.
Then the girls takes a bath and sits for puja where she is made to wear “chura” the red ivory bangles and kailra is tied to her bangles by the relatives, and showering warm wishes. Then there is a small ritual where the bride judders her kalira on the spinsters of the family and if it falls of any of the eligible girl’s head, it is believed that the girl will be married next.
On the groom’s side, the mother of the boy ties shehera a veil of flowers in the turban and blesses his life to be good and filled with fragrance as flowers.
At the venue of wedding, the girl’s family welcomes the baraat, later the bride and groom are brought to the elevated stage and in front of all they exchange garlands. Then next is the phera ceremony where the couple sits before the sacred fire or agni and in presence of lords vow to be together and take four rounds around the agni. Since then the girl is no more a daughter to her parents, now she is a wife to her husband and daughter-in-law to her in-laws. During the wedding procession after the phera, the bride puts her feet on stone and her brother pours kheel and the bride gives them to her husband which signifies that whatever come may she cannot return to her earlier state of daughter of the house.
After the ceremonies, the next morning is the vidaai where the daughter is happily bidden farewell and from now her husband’s home is her new house till the time of her death.
Author Bio: –
Subhadra Bhadauria is an ardent writer for famous site JeevanSathi.com. Her cogent writing style and article varieties grill the readers with plenty of information. Exploring different facets of relations, she is regular writer on the matrimony site. India has melange of communities residing in the different parts of the nation, and having their own style of customs and traditions to practice. She explores and highlights the mores and Punjabi wedding culture, focusing on the India’s’ rich ethos and heritage.